I was doing laundry in a laundromat a couple of years back and I came across and notice this sign on the wall. It was an art wall pretty much….it was more like a pun on how to do laundry properly. But once it settled, it has a correlation on how life unfolds as well….how we wash, dry, fold, and repeat…the same as how we are born, crawl, walk, run, then die and the cycle repeats itself once again.
Life is always constant and consistent with change. Sometimes it is hard to keep up with it for it doesn’t wait for anyone nor keep track of any stats or records—for stats and records are only spoken in memory. With change being so fast paced–we tend to run in auto-pilot, just breezing through.
—-Change is the law of life. And those who look only in the past and in the present are certain to miss the future—– John F. Kennedy.
So, how are we able to cope with all the changes in our lives without feeling the pressure?….without feeling lethargic? without the feeling of lost? or having wishful thinking? that everything will just stay the same. How are we able to accept change or to change for that matter? without looking only in the past and in the present and not loose sight of the future?
Change for me came in the form of a loss–a loss of a father. I wasn’t lethargic, lost, heck, I wasn’t even wishfully thinking. Everything to me was the same; a loss that is some how unexpected and emphatically shocking—the agent?– cancer. A very unexpected event indeed, that it shaped the course of my life. It has been two years that passed, that life has changed and I am still struggling with the change—but in hindsight—wash, dry, fold, and repeat–life must go on.
As human nature, we tend to bottle up or put on a brave face in order to look strong and show that we are not affected–plowing to the process of grief, but it is not a healthy process to do and yes, it is not easy.
Bringing perspective to my grief was and still is a challenge. There is the battle with grief that just sprouts during the day and it’s crippling; and there is this euphoria that grief had come and pass.
The perspective to my grief came through, when I was telling myself ” I WANT TO LIVE”–I want to live life to the fullest. I want to take stock of what I have and count my blessings. I want to explore and expound my potential–It is not worth destroying life because of a big change and setbacks.
I don’t want to be looking behind the past too much or too much in the present or way to ahead in the future, I want to enjoy life every second of it. I want to share what I have and learn as much as I can in this life.
I slowly learn to accept the change–as fast paced as it is and to let go of grief, pain, and anger and to be mindful of life once again.
“Death is a natural part of life. Rejoice for those who transform into the Force. Mourn them do not. Miss do not. Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed that is. Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose.”– Master Yoda
What questions would you ask yourself? What lessons have you learned?
As we pave the way for the New Year, let this be the year the change that he or she is looking for . It has been a year of ups and downs but with struggle comes growth and progress and I am looking forward to the new challenges and life ahead. May the New Year bring peace, joy, and growth to everyone.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Everybody!!!